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When we find ourselves in a situation or engaging in some activity which we shouldn’t be involved in, can we say that we fell to our weakness?

What is really a weakness? How do we differentiate between what we can’t control and what we don’t really want controlled?

A good number of times, when people are told to do a strength–weakness analysis, they often point to flaws which they claim are a part of their lives. When we embrace things that we shouldn’t, are we trying to say we are doomed to keep failing?

A good example is the temperament type weaknesses case. Most individuals find it easy to blame unbecoming behaviour on their temperament type. This is totally unacceptable because temperaments by themselves are amoral. A temperament type is basically a description of an individual’s predisposition to act or be motivated in a certain direction of energy or interest.

It has nothing to do with the content of character. It is about the ‘how’ an individual goes about his regular life and not the ‘what’ or ‘why’ of his actions or interest.

Temperaments are amoral. They are neither wrong nor right. They only emphasize individual uniqueness. Temperaments show how we differ from others. Our temperament types, just like other parts of our individuality such as height, skin colour, and weight may cause us to be exposed or attractive to some certain settings or individuals. For instance, a lady with some heavy bosom is easily noticed because of the prominence of her features, what she decides to do with that attention is her choice. It doesn’t mean her bust size is evil or a weakness. It is important for us to know that every given part of our person is a gift. We are the ones to decide what we do with it.

Therefore, an individual who has the interest in socialising must not blame rambunctious or indecent behaviour on his tendency to be active and extroverted. He can engage his energy and interest in a positive direction if he chooses.

In such a case as with many all over the world, individuals are quick to say that’s a weakness. Improper behaviour is always termed a weakness as though it didn’t stem from the individual‘s willingness to be involved in such activities.

If we really look at it and choose to be responsible for our actions and realities, most of what we call weaknesses are willingness we don’t want controlled. A true weakness is something beyond our capability such that if placed in controlled situations, with everything working in our favour, we would still not be able to help ourselves.

On this note, I’d say it’s high time we owned up to our weaknesses and take responsibility for our indulgences.

Self Check

• What do I consider my main weaknesses?
• What complaints about myself do I often hear from people?
• Did the responses from the first and second questions match?
• Do I really believe I have been self-indulgent or am I really incapable of helping myself with these “weaknesses”?
• Will you like to see changes in these areas?
• If these weaknesses were removed from your life, what will be the impact in your life, relationship?
• What are you going to do about these weaknesses?

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TS

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